When things don’t go as planned…

At the time of writing this, the last two classes I taught were prenatal and postnatal yoga. During both of the classes, I was led to botch my “plans” for the class and ended up doing something completely different. This was all to meet my student’s needs, and after all, that’s my job as their teacher!

My prenatal class was very low on energy, and it was very apparent after our warm up that they needed a restorative practice. So, I whipped out a body scan Chakra meditation that I have been working on. My postnatal class had one lovely mama and her baby, and this mom ended up needing to feed her baby for half of the time (at least!) so we ended up chatting about life with babies while doing some gentle stretching.

While I was chatting with this mom, I mentioned that for this class, and one I taught previously, I ended up teaching something completely different from what I’d planned. This mom said something so simple but so profound- she said:

“You know, isn’t that just like parenting? As soon as you think you have it all figured out, things don’t go as planned.”

Truth was spoken!

I’ve been thinking about these wise words and how I can use this wisdom moving forward. All too often, as parents, we cling to outcomes. Coming to this realization helped me see how I cling to outcomes everyday.

Afternoon naps are the time when my son sleeps and I need to get things done, but yet sometimes sleep never happens. In the beginning, dealing with cluster feeding, I was convinced there must be something seriously wrong with me or my son’s appetite. This is definitely the quickest line at the grocery store, right? I don’t know about you, but I pick the slowest line every time.

In yoga philosophy,  there is the concept of Santosha, which is translated to contentment or acceptance. Without going too deep into yogic philosophy, at a basic level, it is one of five niyamas, or personal behaviors, which are part of an 8 limbed path written by Patanjali. The niyamas are part of a larger picture which brings us to improved health, happiness, and enlightenment. Patanjali says that Santosha is necessary to lead us towards personal growth and satisfaction.

What if we changed the lens in which we see life’s unplanned moments? Instead of clinging to outcomes, accepting what is, no matter how sleep deprived and downright exhausted we may be. I do believe this is possible, not all of the time, but we can start in life’s small moments. I’ll be starting in line at the grocery store. One deep breath at a time…

 

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