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When things don’t go as planned…

At the time of writing this, the last two classes I taught were prenatal and postnatal yoga. During both of the classes, I was led to botch my “plans” for the class and ended up doing something completely different. This was all to meet my student’s needs, and after all, that’s my job as their teacher!

My prenatal class was very low on energy, and it was very apparent after our warm up that they needed a restorative practice. So, I whipped out a body scan Chakra meditation that I have been working on. My postnatal class had one lovely mama and her baby, and this mom ended up needing to feed her baby for half of the time (at least!) so we ended up chatting about life with babies while doing some gentle stretching.

While I was chatting with this mom, I mentioned that for this class, and one I taught previously, I ended up teaching something completely different from what I’d planned. This mom said something so simple but so profound- she said:

“You know, isn’t that just like parenting? As soon as you think you have it all figured out, things don’t go as planned.”

Truth was spoken!

I’ve been thinking about these wise words and how I can use this wisdom moving forward. All too often, as parents, we cling to outcomes. Coming to this realization helped me see how I cling to outcomes everyday.

Afternoon naps are the time when my son sleeps and I need to get things done, but yet sometimes sleep never happens. In the beginning, dealing with cluster feeding, I was convinced there must be something seriously wrong with me or my son’s appetite. This is definitely the quickest line at the grocery store, right? I don’t know about you, but I pick the slowest line every time.

In yoga philosophy,  there is the concept of Santosha, which is translated to contentment or acceptance. Without going too deep into yogic philosophy, at a basic level, it is one of five niyamas, or personal behaviors, which are part of an 8 limbed path written by Patanjali. The niyamas are part of a larger picture which brings us to improved health, happiness, and enlightenment. Patanjali says that Santosha is necessary to lead us towards personal growth and satisfaction.

What if we changed the lens in which we see life’s unplanned moments? Instead of clinging to outcomes, accepting what is, no matter how sleep deprived and downright exhausted we may be. I do believe this is possible, not all of the time, but we can start in life’s small moments. I’ll be starting in line at the grocery store. One deep breath at a time…

 

A little bit more about me…

Hey! I’m Laura, mother of an almost 10 month old baby boy. I’m so excited to start this yoga teaching journey!

I grew up in Durham, NC, and went to Lenoir-Rhyne University, where I got a degree in Teaching for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing. I moved back to the local area and taught 7 years for the public school system. There I taught elementary school students, all of which used spoken language to communicate, helping them with listening and language skills as well as teaching all of the core subjects.

At the end of my 7 year stint of teaching, I married my husband who was currently serving in the military. He was stationed in Newport News, VA area, so I sold my house, quit my job teaching, moved, and found out that I was pregnant! I was very fortunate to benefit from a military spouse program which allowed me to take my 200hr yoga teacher training at Zenya Yoga in Newport News, VA during my pregnancy. Going through my teacher training during this time was perfect synchronicity, as I dove into my practice physically, emotionally, and spiritually. This helped me through the many ups and downs (I mean joys) of pregnancy.  Very early on in my pregnancy, I decided that having an unmedicated birth was my top priority. I dove into Hypnobirthing techniques, with the help of my amazing doula, who helped me every step of the way. At the same time, going through my teacher training, I quickly made many connections between what I was learning about mindfulness and breathing techniques and Hypnobirthing techniques. I also decided to arm myself with birthing knowledge, and read anything I could get my hands on about birth and labor. After having my son, and my birth experience (future post yet to come!) I was truly transformed as a yogi and a mama.

A few months after my son was born, my husband was at the end of his term of military service, and we decided to move back to the Raleigh/Durham area. Through pure synchronicity, in the myst of our move, I was able to take my 85hr prenatal teacher training with Whole Mama Yoga at Carrboro Yoga Company. This training added to my current knowledge of pregnancy, yoga, birth, babies, and so much more, at a very important time in my life, as a postnatal mama continuing to heal.

From pregnancy to prenatal training, can you believe this all happened over the course of a year?!

I’m looking forward to sharing what I have learned through this process with other pregnant and postnatal mamas 🙂